THE RELATIONSHIPS OF PEOPLE WITH PERSONALITY DISORDERS (PART I)

This article will be posted in three different parts.


A personality disorder is defined as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the individual’s culture, is pervasive and inflexible, and has an onset in adolescence or early adulthood, is stable over time, and leads to distress or impairment.

Personality disorders can be understood in terms of personality traits. Personality traits are relatively stable and long lasting patterns of thoughts, actions, and feelings, which are unique to each individual. These traits determine each person to behave in a usual manner. When these traits become inflexible and maladaptive in such a way that they cause a lot of distress and functional impairment, then it becomes a personality disorder.

People with personality disorders consistently display distorted ways of thinking, expressing emotions, controlling behavior, and interacting with others. This becomes highly problematic not only for them, but for others who interact with them. In fact, it has been found in some instances that people with personality disorders create less trouble for themselves and more for others with whom they interact with. It is this feature of people with personality disorders that makes it intriguing to have a closer look at the kind of relationships they maybe having with others.

There are mainly ten different types of personality disorders, which are divided into three categories or clusters. The three clusters of personality disorders are: odd/eccentric, dramatic/emotional/erratic, and anxious/fearful.

The odd/eccentric cluster comprises of three personality disorders, which are: paranoid personality disorder, schizoid personality disorder, and schizotypal personality disorder.

Paranoid personality disorder (PPD) mainly characterizes of being overly suspicious and extremely mistrustful. They always have the feeling that others will harm them or take advantage of them, even if they do not have any evidence of it. They feel suspicious in almost all situations and with almost all people. They are argumentative, become aggressive easily, experience intense jealousy, are humourless, and unemotional, which makes them appear to dislike others and be incapable of intimacy. All this makes a drastic effect on their social and emotional adjustment.

People with PPD have significant problems in their social relationships. They have very few friends, which do not last long due to their suspiciousness towards them. They have trouble in forgiving and forgetting. They constantly question the motives of their colleagues, friends, and family, and doubt their loyalty and trustworthiness. They also do not confide with others because they feel that the information that they will share will be used against them. They act distant, cold, and tend to avoid groups. Due to their continuous suspiciousness of others’ motives, they usually spend their life as a loner.

The main features of schizoid personality disorder (SPD) are a severely restricted range of emotions and an indifference to social relationships. Schizoid personalities experience a constant emotional blandness. They do not seem to experience the emotions, such as warmth, pleasure, disappointment, hurt, which are part of ordinary social life. In severe cases they are completely unable to seek pleasure.

In general people with SPD are unskilled in social situations. Due to their social awkwardness, they appear to be superficial or self-absorbed. They are incapable of noticing other people’s social, emotional, and interpersonal cues. They appear to have little or no interest in relationships. They are detached from other people, prefer to be alone, and are mostly involved in solitary activities. They are typically indifferent to potential romances and friendships. They are often distant from their families, they rarely marry, and have no close friends. Apart from a relative, such as a parent or a sibling, they rarely maintain a close relationship.

People with schizotypal personality disorder (STPD) manifest odd speech, behavior, thinking, and perception. They exhibit a highly eccentric behavior, such as they dress up and talk in an odd manner. They also claim to have magical thinking. For instance, they claim to predict the future, read the thoughts of others, and communicate with animals.

Schizotypal personalities experience social and emotional problems. They are socially isolated and tend to shun people. They are unskilled socially and are often unable to pick up social cues of others. Their idiosyncrasy and eccentricity makes others feel awkward and see them as socially stiff. This in turn makes them feel awkward around others. People with STPD seldom have close friends outside their own families, and other people tend to see them as silly or absurd. Unlike schizoid personality disorder, people with STPD get bothered by their lack of interpersonal relationships. They want to feel connected with people, but are unable to make social connections.


This is the end of Part I. The next part will be about the relationships of people with personality disorders that are in the dramatic/emotional/erratic cluster.


Saif Farooqi

A PhD in Psychology (from the University of Delhi). I have been blogging about psychological issues for more than ten years. I am extremely passionate about teaching psychology. I'm a writer, podcaster, and TEDx speaker. I also conduct workshops and awareness programs in schools and colleges. Currently, I'm also working as an Assistant Professor at the Department of Psychology, Faculty of Social Sciences, Jamia Millia Islamia, New Delhi, India

12 comments:

Rakesh Vanamali said...

Very resourceful, easy to understand and certainly something that can be related to what one sees in daily life!

Saif Farooqi said...

Thanks Rakesh ... nice to know that you liked this post :)

Anonymous said...

LoL !! Lady gaga has STPD ... JK ... nice Post btw ... Read ur blog after such a long time ...



Divz

Saif Farooqi said...

@ Divz
haha ... that's a typical your kind of comment :D ... and welcome back to my blog :D

Anonymous said...

Hahahaha yea ... will be MIA again .. have to prepare for boards ... !!! Already drafted a few articles for my blog ... which will go online after i am done with these 'eggjams' !!! :P

Cyaaa buddy


Divz

Poorvi said...

Pretty interesting and from what i have generally observed, very true... I'm not formally into psychology, but somewhat an enthusiast...
I'd be very interested in the dramatic ones... gotta relate them to a case study :) hope u update it soon

Poorvisha Ravi
MSc. Forensic Science

Saif Farooqi said...

@ Poorvisha
I had already written the next two parts before you wrote your comment. Maybe you came here directly through the link of this post that's why you didn't notice the next parts. :)

Part II is about the dramatic/emotional cluster and Part III is about the anxious/fearful cluster. Hope you'll find it useful for the case study that you're talking about.

Kate said...

Thanks for explaining the broad subject of personality disorder in such an easy to understand manner.I feel sorry for those who have such illness.
Anyway here's a personality test you or/and your readers may enjoy -
The 5 Factor Personality Test
Personality as per the 5 most telling factors.
http://www.3smartcubes.com/pages/tests/fivefactor/fivefactor_instructions.asp

Scotland Furnishing said...

No matter what condition you might have - be it mental of physical, you have the basic human right of leading a happy life. having a relationship, having people close to you, with whom to share your ups and downs in life is what makes one's time on this planet worthwhile.

Sassy said...

Great post! I am looking forward to reading all parts. A must share and bookmark.

Madison:-)

Saif Farooqi said...

Thanks Madison for your kind words. I have already posted the next parts (Part II & Part III). You can find the link of Part II at the end of the first part and the link of Part III at the end of the second part. But, for your convenience, I'll post the links over here also :)

Part II:
http://lifepsychologyandalotmore.blogspot.in/2011/02/relationships-of-people-with.html

Part III:
http://lifepsychologyandalotmore.blogspot.in/2011/02/relationships-of-people-with_18.html

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